Female sexuality has been shrouded in judgement since the beginning of time. Did men honestly think women would keep their needs hidden in the shadows, forever?
Let’s face it, as long as we’ve had vaginas, we’ve had needs. I, for one, am tired of sex being a taboo topic of conversation and hope there are men and women out there wanting to elicit change.
Sex. We’re all having it. We’re all here because of it. Yet, most don’t feel comfortable talking about it and would rather live an asexual life than advocate for their needs and desires.
From my experiences, sex is vastly improved with the presence of open, clear communication. Discussions which happen before, during, and after an intimate encounter.
During my year of sexcapades, I could tell by the response men gave me that they were not used to a woman who spoke up in bed…at all! Sadly, I’ve encountered way too many women who aren’t pleased in bed, yet refuse to speak up, so I fully understood their surprise.
I was surprised, however, by men’s shock at my verbal expressiveness while being intimate. Is it really that rare for a women to blurt out, “You feel fucking great!”, during intercourse? Um, because it does feel fucking great if it’s being done the right way. Sadly, I’m told it’s very common for women to lie speechless while having sex.
Who wants to have sex with a blowup doll when they have a living, breathing woman underneath them?
Gone are the days of men being the sole focus of pleasure in bed. Women have sexual desires and always have. It’s high time we start expressing them, stigma free.
Unless we tell our partners what we’re wanting in the bedroom, we are doomed to living a life of sexual frustration. I don’t know about you, but I’d much rather live my life in a sexually healthy and fulfilling relationship.
Our society is evolving by the day. You can see it happening before your eyes in the way we’re embracing mental health visibility like never before. Shouldn’t our conversations around sexual fulfillment evolve as well?
Normalizing communication about bettering our sexual relationships should be just as open and transparent as mental health. Sex is an integral component of a healthy relationship. I’d argue it’s the MOST important component. Sex is the act that connects us. It repairs the bond that slowly disintegrates in the hustle and bustle of our over-scheduled modern lives.
What skyrockets your sexual arousal?
What do you wish your partner would do differently?
What’s a change you’d like to make in the bedroom?
Let’s elicit change.